Article By Julie A. Fast
Sometimes, people commit suicide and we are able to make some sense of why it happened. It’s scary and upsets our world, but on a basic level we think we understand. Robin William’s suicide comes to mind. He had a history of depression and his health was failing. We all wish he could have found more help, but I don’t think it was surprising as much as it was devastating and sad for the millions who loved him.
Then there are suicides that make no sense. The idea doesn’t fit with how we see the individual’s personal life or with how they describe their life in public. The partner or other loved ones are shocked and usually vehemently deny that the person was acting suicidal. Society likes to look for something deeper when they hear that the person wasn’t outwardly suicidal, such as a possible secret life.
I have a different opinion based on personal experience that I would like to share.
If you are a fan and his death is hitting you hard, now is a good time to take care of YOURSELF. He is at peace now. I believe this. We are the living and we are here to keep going. I am sad, but I’m not depressed. There is a difference.
If you need help, a crisis line is a good start.
People with bipolar disorder have an illness that gets triggered. We are strong. Get help if you need it.
I am going to celebrate the joy he brought to my life. This is the best way I can remember him.
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